It may occasionally
come to pass in your romantic life, that you'd like to get in the
pants of an entrancing female who appears to be too shy to undo zippers
of any sort. To put it less vulgarly, you may like a girl, even really
like a girl, who seems to be too shy to respond to your normal attempts
at establishing possible romantic connection.
Such a situation
can seem hopeless, or at the least frustrating, even more so if you
classify yourself as among the romantically shy. What to do? How to
seduce, charm, and woo the shy one you've set your sights on, with
some hope of success and future satisfaction.
The answer is
- it's not hard, but it is tricky. Therefore, it's important that
you do it right if you want to keep your hopes alive.
As
is our wont here at prettyfedup.com, we'll attack the problem logically,
which means exploring the theoretical underpinnings of shyness, breaking
them down into analytical little bits, discoursing at length, and so
on. You may or may not find this the slightest bit helpful in your endeavors.
Then we come to the advice part, which tells you exactly what to do.
Similarly, you may or may not find this helpful, but what the hell -
it's worth a shot, you're not getting anywhere on your own. So let's
dive in.
First
step: the components of female shyness.
Component
of Shyness #1: Fear of Other People.
Component
of Shyness #2: A Central Nervous System that Tends to Freak.
Component
#1 is not only perfectly natural, it's universal. Everybody is occasionally
frightened of Other People and their potential reactions. Everybody
is occasionally shy in certain situations or intimidated or hesitant,
uncertain, and insecure. If you are never ever shy - there's something
drastically wrong with you. Having something drastically wrong
with you in this regard may actually be helpful to you in achieving
your life goals as you will be willing to take risks with Other People
that others would find daunting. On the other hand, it will almost
certainly win you some enemies along the way. If you can handle
that, there is no reason whatsoever, from your point of view, to develop
a socially appropriate level of shyness. Other People will sincerely
and at times desperately wish you would but you don't care - so fuck
'em.
The
object of your desire, however, has socially appropriate shyness in
spades however - too much from your point of view - and so we need
to look at what generally causes this.
The
most common fear that leads to shyness is the fear of getting our
delicate feelings hurt. Being rejected, mocked, humiliated, embarrassed,
excluded, and otherwise being given the message that whatever intimidating
cohort of Other People we are shy around does not like us.
As human beings, we tend to dislike that feeling. Our very survival
as helplessly social creatures absolutely requires that a certain
sufficient contingent of Other People like us well enough to forego
doing us any active harm. So that they don't abuse us, take advantage
of us, toss us out of society, steal our money, and reject our loan
applications. Basic stuff like that. We need support and assistance
to get through our daily lives and if people are busy stamping REJECT
on our foreheads or our paperwork, it tends to make things difficult.
Most of us experience more of the REJECT phenomenon than we'd really
care to, and this leads us to develop healthy (or unhealthy) levels
of shyness and fear when dealing with the bewildering mass of Other
People that permeates our lives. Basic stuff. Human Being 101. No-brainer.
Logically
Enough Then, When Dealing with Your Shy Gal - you are going to need
to send the I LIKE YOU message as opposed to the I DON'T LIKE YOU
message. Hopefully you could figure that one out on your own.
But maybe you didn't think of it quite so straightforwardly or consider
in depth how to fulfill this important task in wooing your shy girl.
So stop right now, take a moment, and think of it very straightforwardly
- I need to send the I LIKE YOU message to this attractive specimen
of femininity. Consider this basic underpinning of your strategy
in depth. Ponder for a moment on how to send the I LIKE YOU message.
A simple and fairly obvious way to begin your campaign in this regard
is the use of sentences that contain the magic 'I like' phrase.
I like your dress. I like your hair. I like your ideas on that.
I like how you handled that. I like your poetry, your website, your
blog, your approach, your attitude, your taste in music, whatever
the hell you can think of that reasonably approximates the truth.
Presumably if you like this person there is something that you like
about them. Say it aloud.
Special
Tip for the Tact Impaired: It is frequently not advisable
when deploying the initial 'I like' strategy with a shy girl to
start out with things along the lines of I LIKE YOUR BOOBS. Or even
I JUST REALLY REALLY LIKE YOU A LOT. There are some people you can
get away with this kind of direct approach on. Shy girls are not
usually those people. You want to like something that is uh, detachable,
from the person themselves, and boobs, however inconveniently, are
not usually detachable from the person who has them. Hairstyle,
dress, etc., these things come and go, boobs preferably don't. The
importance of beginning your campaign with a shy girl more subtly
partly has to do with the Central Nervous System problem we talked
about earlier. And it partly has to do with the nature of shyness
itself.
So let's get back
to the nature of shyness itself. The principal danger the shy girl confronts
in dealing with people such as yourself is, as we noted earlier, the
danger of getting her delicate feelings hurt. She has them. So do
you. Even if neither of you is all that fond of your delicate feelings,
and even if one or both of you has embarked upon an active campaign
to destroy them, you still have them. Everybody does. Delicate feelings
are part of the operating system of the normal human being. The Delicate
Feelings Feature comes pre-bundled with the infant at birth and
starts operating immediately even during the squalling, squirming and
screaming stage of early life, and keeps on going til you die. Whether
you like it or not, and sometimes you won't, because delicate feelings
do get hurt.
The reason is
this. In order to live, we all need certain expectations of the future.
Our brains cannot operate without them. There is no point in them
doing anything unless there is some sort of a fucking future in which
what they do now will make some sort of a difference to how things
work out then. People who become acutely depressed often realize this
with excruciating clarity. They experience the agonizing sensation
that nothing they do will make any difference in their future
and this sensation is so dangerously painful and unpleasant to the
human brain that it starts saying hopeless and despairing things like
'What's the fucking point, anyway?' And eventually, 'I might as well
just kill myself right now.' And so on. This kind of shit is dangerous
to the human brain and even little tiny newborns come pre-loaded with
an expectation of future affection. If they don't get it - the disappointed
infant will on occasion just fucking die. Their brain will fold up,
pack up its shit and announce gloomily to itself that there's no fucking
point in living anyway, and the stricken infant will just die. For
no other discernible medical reason than disappointment of its pre-existing
expectations. The future is a big deal to the human brain. We
need it.
Feelings are
based, in large part, on our expectations of the future. In many
regards, that's what they're there for. To help guide us toward the
most desirable future we can imagine and avoid the most undesirable
future we can imagine. For example, being liked feels good, we want
to go in that direction in our futures; being disliked feels bad,
we want to avoid that in our futures. It's more complicated than that,
of course, how this is all arranged brain-wise, but the basic principle
is easy enough to grasp.
Therefore,
obviously, in our dealings with the Shy Girl of our desire, we want
to create expectations of a Desirable Future to safeguard those
all-important Delicate Feelings she is carting around. We want,
cleverly, to create the impression that not only do we like something
about her in the present, but we may very well like things about
her in the future. This is one reason why we don't leap immediately
to the boobs or the passionate declaration of Deep Like. We don't
want to shoot our wad at the outset. We want to give the impression
that there are possibly more and better things to come. We want
to create a desire for those more and better things by administering
small, inherently unsatisfying, yet addictive doses of Like until
she is hooked. We want this woman to come to regard you as the legal
equivalent of heroin, and we do this by using the natural chemistry
of feeling.
Sudden Ethical
Note: Since I am going to tell you how to get a shy girl as powerfully
addicted to you as she would be to heroin by manipulating her natural
feelings - I sincerely and deeply hope you are not going to use this
ability for nefarious purposes. Be nice! It is not a good thing to
go around seducing shy girls you don't really like and don't intend
to be nice to - just because you can. Some people do this.
They figure out how easy it is and they run around seducing shy girls
they have no real respect for, break their hearts, ruin their lives,
and fuck things up for everyone else. They do this, usually, because
they under the impression that no one would actually like them for
real, and so they come to rely on whatever they can get - artifically
induced emotions. You do not need to do this. You wouldn't
be reading this if you did need to do this, so don't do it.
Okay, so now that
you have been warned, you naturally want to know how to cash in on
this addictive like heroin thing. Which leads you, again naturally,
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